Wednesday, July 23, 2014

When we were growing up- The unseen side

Time flies- A phrase which has become a cliché but that is the reality too. It was just few years ago when we were a group of kids playing around without any tension or worry. Just go to school, do your homework, play, eat and sleep. Then we started thinking “when would we grow up?”, ” nobody listens to me”, “let me just grow and then I’ll show what I’m capable of, what do these elders think of themselves” and so on. And then time passed by, so we finally got what we had been craving for years, now people listen to us. Yes! We are grown-ups. We have completed college, started earning, have become self-dependent.  But we might not have realized that, all this while, when we were growing up our parents were going older.  Now, that young beautiful face of Mumma and strong hands of Papa has wrinkles. We come home on vacations and think that Papa can easily carry that 20 Kg suitcase. We plan to go for shopping, for the whole day, with Mumma. It’s difficult to accept that suddenly Papa is not able to carry that suitcase and Mumma can’t walk from one shop to another to search that best dress for us. And we wonder what happened.  It takes time to realize that they are going older and our expectations needs to change.

Time passes and it brings so many changes with it. The hands which we held when we didn’t know where to go, now, need our support. Now it’s our time to carry their bag and to go for shopping and get stuff for them, to stand in a queue and let our parents sit comfortably. We want some changes and some changes occur which we did not thought of -out of which we accept some happily and some cannot be. 

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Happiness

Recently, I’ve been coming across various posts on facebook about what makes one happy.  Some of them are really interesting like “happiness is annoying your sister”,”happiness is getting new haircut”, “happiness is losing weight” and the list goes on. There are various versions of these posts which make many of us connect to it.


But what is that which really makes one happy? Isn’t that us? If one is in good mood then everything makes one happy. It’s our way of looking at things. The same thing can make one feel happy if one wants and the same can make somebody feel bad if one is not in good mood. So for me, “happiness is me“because it’s we who can make ourselves happy. There are some things which are close to heart and usually make us happy (except when one is in really bad mood) but there are other things too which can make us happy, if we want to be.  Just tell this to yourself that “Wow! Today I’m so happy” and then see the effect. It’s our enthusiasm which would make things appear good to us. We can make, even, others feel good with us by our positive energy. It might take some time to get the happiness in return from others, but I’m sure if we are happy then we can spread it and get it back for ourselves. 

And finally happiness is deep sleep after a long day J

Tuesday, October 29, 2013

The Smile

You are rushing on your cycle to class with a gatekeeper waiting to enjoy his moments after not letting you inside the class and you are not in best of your moods. One would, certainly, be not in best of one’s moods when there is a class to be attended at 8 o’clock in the morning after a sleep of an hour. Sleep is not the only reason for your sullen mood there is a plethora of reasons for it. Leave alone the thought of smiling at someone; you just want to restrain yourself from throwing tantrums.

Then you see someone smiling at you. Your tension and anger vanish. You forget that you want to sleep and you have enough work that demands for more than 24 hours in a day. You forget self-centric people and politics going on around you. You forget the gatekeeper and all of his kind. You just remember the smile of a kid, full of life and energy with his bag on, going to his school. Sitting on a bike with his father he turns back and just keeps smiling at you. No reason for the smile coming straight from his heart, the smile which you used to have some years back. The smile that takes you back to your home that reminds you that there are people who love you. The simile makes you realize that all which is happening now is just a part of life which has other beautiful aspects too. It energizes you to take on everything with positive attitude.


You reach the college in fresh, good mood to find the same gatekeeper and you smile to yourself. You find people with same attitude and illogical arguments. You get reminded of your pending work with drooping eyes.  Things keep coming to you that the smile goes away somewhere. But once in a while you think of it and continue.

Thursday, October 10, 2013

Diversify Your Portfolio

Warren Buffet, the most successful investor, says “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket” and I think it is true not just for financial investment but for emotional investment as well. Everyone has an emotional investment portfolio to be managed. Here stocks are people (relatives and friends); investment goes in terms of sentiments, feelings and attachment; the positive returns can be realized as support and happiness whereas negative returns come as sadness even as a sense of void in life because of that stock; and bankruptcy is a state of depression.

If one invests only in a single stock then risk is very high, it affects the investor for each up and down movement (positive and negative returns) exorbitantly. But if an investor has a diversified portfolio i.e. investments in other stocks also then this risk can be reduced. The negative returns by a stock can be reduced by another stock in the portfolio with positive returns. If you get highly exposed to one stock then it has all the capacities to drive you bankrupt.

I would translate this for those who hate finance and have, already, started feeling like tearing their hair out. If we get attached to only few people in our life then there are more chances that their absence would get intolerable or we would get hurt badly because of them. But if we have more people around us then there are less chances that all of them would hurt all at once or go away at once. We can share our feelings with other people close to us and reduce the intensity of negativity with the help of their support. On extreme case if a person is dependent on only one person then problem gets acute.

So it is better we diversify our portfolio of people with whom we get attached and reduce the risk of getting negative returns as sadness


P.S:  1) We have, alike financial investors, short term, medium term and long term investors here too.
        2) Post was written with a perspective of diversifying friends portfolio and not boyfriend/girlfriend portfolio :P 

Thursday, August 2, 2012

Creative Unconscious mind



Creativity comes into action while sleeping, and dreams are the outcome. It links completely different events and people together. Somebody knocks on your door in the real world and it turns a benevolent, calm ally of your dream into a deadliest enemy who abruptly starts beating you. And in case the person starts beating your door because you are so busy fighting your new found enemy in your earlier friend, then this enemy would get a full-fledged army and you will find yourself alone fighting this army conjured from nowhere. Though my subconscious did not give me that power but your might give this magical power of getting a new army for yourself, that too without a single political move.
 I wonder how this subconscious mind of mine gets so innovative and out-of-the-box ideas when I don’t want. What I need is sound sleep for few hours, which I find difficult to get in my regained student life. But when I try hard to get so imaginative while working, then my imagination is on rest, after all one cannot be at work all the time. Ya it also goes on leave for some days and allows me to fulfill my quota of sleeping and comes back when I start missing those dreams of mine. I know I sound a bit possessive about my dreams, but these are the dreams where I am able to achieve what I want but I can’t, to meet people whom I miss, that too all together, the way I want and again almost unlikely.
Though my schedule doesn’t permit me to dream for so long but I love this subconscious mind of mine so much that I end up forgetting my real life. The real world, where I should let this imagination of mine work, but it doesn’t happen. And more I try and strain myself, the ideas get worse. So the plan is to leave this creative part free, and let it decide when it wants to come to me.

Saturday, March 21, 2009

Who Am I?

After a long contemplation I have decided to write something about me, after all this is my first post. So I am a fun loving girl who believes in family values, not a superstitious person and not an atheist, very moody and often regret some conversations and acts, always trying to be a strong person and even thrive it sometimes.But I know basically I am an emotional fool after all I am an Indian. I get attached with people chronically so avoid realizing them as my friend so easily though I would help them in every possible way, but I don't let the feeling come to me that they are my friends, one of the reasons may be that I am very possessive about all whom I love, which includes my family and my friends(countable on fingers). And I know that I should not be but what to do I am, I can do anything for them and expect same from them(must be thinking its really dangerous to be my friend but thats the truth so beware). May be thats why I give full time to the other person to do something that is not expected by me before I find a friend in him/her. I am lazy, very lazy, always busy in making plans but never implemented any, implementation is always left for the future, that never comes. Always regret the past but never work hard to change it though i know all the philosophical words "why to regret past, why not to change future ...................." and all and even I can give a good lecture on that but it's hard to implement. People expect alot from me and I know I can do it but because of my carelessness I screw up everything. It's not like I never do anything, I do work hard that brings hopes to my well-wishers but I am so impatient that can't carry it to the end......................success entices me to work hard and when I don't get that I leave that, and can't do anything that I don't like. Sometimes I wonder what really do I want? Sometimes I feel that I am a mature girl, and then I ask myself am I really?It doesn't mean that if you can travel alone or if you can handle few things by your own then you are a mature person .........................other day I would think yes I got my aim !!!I want to do it!Next day I change my mood................So my views keep changing about myself. May be some time later I won't think the way I've written now about myself and that's why I often ask myself some answered questions "would i be able to do something in my life?" "what do i really want?" and the biggest question "who am i?"