Happiness

Recently, I’ve been coming across various posts on facebook about what makes one happy.  Some of them are really interesting like “happiness is annoying your sister”,”happiness is getting new haircut”, “happiness is losing weight” and the list goes on. There are various versions of these posts which make many of us connect to it.

But what is that which really makes one happy? Isn’t that us? If one is in good mood then everything makes one happy. It’s our way of looking at things. The same thing can make one feel happy if one wants and the same can make somebody feel bad if one is not in good mood. So for me, “happiness is me“because it’s we who can make ourselves happy. There are some things which are close to heart and usually make us happy (except when one is in really bad mood) but there are other things too which can make us happy, if we want to be.  Just tell this to yourself that “Wow! Today I’m so happy” and then see the effect. It’s our enthusiasm which would make things appear good to us. We can make, even, others feel good with us by our positive energy. It might take some time to get the happiness in return from others, but I’m sure if we are happy then we can spread it and get it back for ourselves. 

And finally happiness is deep sleep after a long day J

The Smile

You are rushing on your cycle to class with a gatekeeper waiting to enjoy his moments after not letting you inside the class and you are not in best of your moods. One would, certainly, be not in best of one’s moods when there is a class to be attended at 8 o’clock in the morning after a sleep of an hour. Sleep is not the only reason for your sullen mood there is a plethora of reasons for it. Leave alone the thought of smiling at someone; you just want to restrain yourself from throwing tantrums.

Then you see someone smiling at you. Your tension and anger vanish. You forget that you want to sleep and you have enough work that demands for more than 24 hours in a day. You forget self-centric people and politics going on around you. You forget the gatekeeper and all of his kind. You just remember the smile of a kid, full of life and energy with his bag on, going to his school. Sitting on a bike with his father he turns back and just keeps smiling at you. No reason for the smile coming straight from his heart, the smile which you used to have some years back. The smile that takes you back to your home that reminds you that there are people who love you. The simile makes you realize that all which is happening now is just a part of life which has other beautiful aspects too. It energizes you to take on everything with positive attitude.

You reach the college in fresh, good mood to find the same gatekeeper and you smile to yourself. You find people with same attitude and illogical arguments. You get reminded of your pending work with drooping eyes.  Things keep coming to you that the smile goes away somewhere. But once in a while you think of it and continue.

Diversify Your Portfolio

Warren Buffet, the most successful investor, says “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket” and I think it is true not just for financial investment but for emotional investment as well. Everyone has an emotional investment portfolio to be managed. Here stocks are people (relatives and friends); investment goes in terms of sentiments, feelings and attachment; the positive returns can be realized as support and happiness whereas negative returns come as sadness even as a sense of void in life because of that stock; and bankruptcy is a state of depression.

If one invests only in a single stock then risk is very high, it affects the investor for each up and down movement (positive and negative returns) exorbitantly. But if an investor has a diversified portfolio i.e. investments in other stocks also then this risk can be reduced. The negative returns by a stock can be reduced by another stock in the portfolio with positive returns. If you get highly exposed to one stock then it has all the capacities to drive you bankrupt.

I would translate this for those who hate finance and have, already, started feeling like tearing their hair out. If we get attached to only few people in our life then there are more chances that their absence would get intolerable or we would get hurt badly because of them. But if we have more people around us then there are less chances that all of them would hurt all at once or go away at once. We can share our feelings with other people close to us and reduce the intensity of negativity with the help of their support. On extreme case if a person is dependent on only one person then problem gets acute.

So it is better we diversify our portfolio of people with whom we get attached and reduce the risk of getting negative returns as sadness

P.S:  1) We have, alike financial investors, short term, medium term and long term investors here too.
        2) Post was written with a perspective of diversifying friends portfolio and not boyfriend/girlfriend portfolio :P